Do I need counselling?
As you read this website, you may be wondering if counselling is right for you. Many people who seek out therapy often worry that their problems aren’t ‘big enough’ or question whether talking about their problems week after week is going to make any difference.
To those people, I provide reassurance that day to day life doesn’t have to be really hard for us before we recognise we need some support. After all, being human can be a challenge and so why wait until crisis point before checking in and making some changes.
We all have increasing demands on us at work and home, as the pace of life becomes faster and faster. Many people who come to me talk about every day demands from increasing workloads, social media, the pressures of family life and the need to get ‘everything done’…
And this is all without the ‘big stuff’ that can come in and wobble us, such as ill health, bereavement, redundancy and relationship breakdown.
In addition, I want to provide assurance that it is OK to ask for help and that everyone deserves to feel listened to, understood, and as though they are worthy of support.
I’d also like to address the myth that counselling involves merely talking about our problems. The difference between counselling and a chat with a friend is that a counsellor will challenge you to look differently at what’s going on, so you can explore your habits, and find new, better ways of being.
People sometimes come to counselling to gain insight and awareness into who they are, or because they want to learn how to live a more meaningful life. So, things don’t even have to feel that bad to have a desire to feel better! Sometimes, there is just a vague feeling that something isn’t right, or maybe the body is speaking by being lethargic or aching.
Other signs that you might need to speak to someone include excessive worrying, angry outbursts, crying regularly or feeling sad and demotivated.
If having read this piece you’re still not sure, then please do contact me to discuss whether counselling is right for you.